Flower Essences For Sexuality and Shyness

BILLY GOAT PLUM*

Flower essences are great for addressing the emotional issues related to sex and feeling comfortable with sex and sexuality. This is such a powerful area for people and often times there is a lot of hurt, pain and confusion around sex and sexuality. Flower essences are an excellent balm to heal sexual trauma and to enhance our comfortability with this powerful aspect of ourselves. To purchase any of the following remedies visit EssenceAlchemy.com.


Basil: FES
Basil helps one integrate sexuality with spirituality, facilitating a positive sexual expression based on acknowledging the sacredness of sexuality. Great for marital stress and clandestine sexual behavior. This essence is also helpful for those with a strong attraction to pornography and debased, destructive sexual expressions. This essence is very healing to human sexual expression helping us to see that sex is not sinful or unspiritual but is part of a greater spiritual expression of being human.

Billy Goat Plum: Australian Bush
This essence treats feelings of shame around sex, for those who feel it is dirty. Helpful for shame, self disgust and self loathing and feelings of uncleanliness after sex.

Blackberry Lily: Delta Gardens
For releasing unconscious or unresolved problems concerning past relationships. For treating deep fears around sexuality and treating sexual trauma from rape, abuse or molestation.

Crab Apple: Bach
For feeling unclean after sex. Crab apple helps to clear the feelings of being dirty.

Flannel Flower: Australian Bush
This essence is for those who are uncomfortable with emotional intimacy and physical touch. It promotes gentleness and sensitivity and enhances this aspect in sexual relationships.

Hibiscus: FES
Warmth and responsiveness in sexuality; integration of soul warmth and bodily passion. Helps when there is an inability to enjoy sexual experiences; lack of warmth due to abuse or exploitation.

Jewel Weed: Delta Gardens
For fear of closeness; fear of being touched; fears surrounding sexuality.

Sticky Monkeyflower: FES
This essence balances the integration of human warmth and sexual intimacy; it helps one to express deep feelings of love and connectedness, especially in sexual relationships. Helpful when there is a fear of intimacy, repressed sexual feelings and an inability to experience warmth in sexual experiences.

Wisteria: Australian Bush
This essence works to clear negative beliefs around sexuality. It helps bring ease, enjoyment and openness to ones sexuality. It is great for frigidity in women and machoness in men. Enhance sensuality.

*The photo of Billy Goat Plum is courtesy of Bush Biotherapies makers of Australian Bush Flower Essences.

Abundance Formulas and How to Create them Part 3

The third part of this series focuses on essences to anchor positive characteristics into the personality. As well as essences which can help us better identify newly discovered parts of ourselves. These essences fall into the category of strengthening essences. They can be used on their own or combined with essences from part 2. By combining essences from this group and those discussed in Part 2 of this series we can gain a significant benefits. How ever you choose to use these essences it is helpful to break the process into specifics to get a sense of how to order treatment. Here is a 3 fold way to organize your approach: 1.) Clear out the negative, 2.) build and/or rebuild the positive and 3.) anchor in the new aspects.

• Elecampane-helps one to learn to identify with newly discovered part of the self
• Bloodroot-helps one to heal and move forward from a place of despair to one of hope
• Pink Lady's Slipper-for strength in expressing ones natural gifts
• Columbine-provides insight into ones true identity/higher purpose, helps those who feel uncertain, lost in life's choices
• Clary Sage-treats fear of risks, new challenges and/or new cycles
• Lousewort-learning to live in a new paradigm, changes attitudes and expectations from probabilities to possibilities
• Cerato-certainty of self, trust in intuition
• Chestnut Bud-for learning from mistakes
• Scleranthus- for ease of decision making, when one cannot choose between two options
• Wild Oat-vocational alignment, brings into focus the true calling of the soul
• Fawn Lily-enhances ones ability to share their gifts with the world, for overcoming shyness
• Mimulus-treats shyness, phobias and fear of known things
• Sage-helps one to draw wisdom from life experiences, helps one to perceive a higher purpose and meaning from life

By now you may realize you are unique and require additional support, to honor that I offer you my services. You can accept the help available by choosing to do a personal consultation.

Abundance Formulas and How to Create them Part 2

Flower essences are useful tools for increasing our feelings of abundance. Because feelings proceed thoughts and thoughts proceed action and action leads to results, it is worth your while to include flower essences in your personal development work. If you are not thinking abundantly or just need an extra boost to get you over the hump, examine what characteristic of feeling is lacking. Then choose essences to help you overcome your limits.

Characteristics of an Abundant Personality

• Motivation
• Self Esteem
• Self Worth
• Inspiration
• Focus

This list of 14 flower essences can help you overcome your limits and live an abundant life.

• Sunflower-This essence enhances the third chakra to project energy outward. Confidence increases and subconscious blocks to success are diminished. Treats fear of success as well as fear of failure.
• Money Plant- This essence enhance feelings of worthiness and self esteem. It also helps to shift our feelings about money itself, from one of lack to one of universal abundance, helping us to see money as an energy rather than object.
• Hornbeam-This essence helps us get our 'joie de vivre' back, it helps us to shake our weariness and encourages dynamic mental and physical energy. As well as helping us face our tasks with more enthusiasm.
• Blackberry-This essence helps one to overcome inertia, it activates the will in clear in direct ways. It supports decisive action and activating their vision.
• Cayenne- This essence stirs the inner fire, helping one to overcome stagnation and take action.
• Horseradish-This essence helps ones ideas to come forward for action, release or manifestation; one feels more power/energy to act; obsessive thinking patterns are discarded.
• Larch-This essence helps us to overcome fear of failure, it builds our self confidence helping one to overcome feelings of being a second class citizen. Those needing this essence generally have the ability but lack the confidence.
• Tansy-This essence helps one to take straightforward action and overcome habits which subvert the real intentions of Self. Great for goal directed activity and deliberate, purposeful action.
• Sticky Geranium- This essence supports focus on various parts of a plan, useful for long term focus and strategies to accomplish goals successfully.
• Tamarack-This essence enhance self confidence, helping us to reach deeper understanding of our unique strengths. Encourages us to develop our unique strengths and individuality.
• Blueberry Pollen-This essence helps one expand on all levels to accommodate abundance; facilitates the release of mental and emotional attachments that limit our ability to manifest higher purpose in physical form.
• Bellflower-This essence helps one to develop certainty in their inner selves, trusting intuition.
• Loveage- This essence helps on to move into the world with a sense of safety and joy; developing a sense of exhilaration in walking one's path; confidence in taking action
• Missouri Primrose- This essence helps one develop feelings worthiness/self esteem; helps those who cannot recognize or utilize their own power; for those who will not take in their own value.
• Arrowwood- Clarity of direction and purpose, guides us to the heart of the matter.

These essences are catalysts and strengtheners. They energize the system, creating movement where there has been stagnation. They help an immobilized will activate and move forward with assurance. They help one to overcome apathy and ambivalence and feel a renewed sense of confidence with taking action.

You will be amazed by how you feel and what starts happening in your life when you start moving forward with greater confidence and inspiration.

Abundance Formulas and How to Create Them

Happy New Year to All!

" Abundance Formulas and How to Create Them" is a new series I created help you help yourself. In this series we will examine a 3 areas to help you best fine tune an "Abundance Formula" for yourself. Abundance as defined by the Merriam-Websters dictionary is "an ample quality; relative degree of plentifulness".

It helps to asses the many factors underlying the term of abundance before deciding on which essences to include in your formula(s). The first area we will examine relates to clearing negativity and removing poverty consciousness. In Part 2 we will look at the importance inspiration, self esteem, self worth and motivation. . Then in Part 3 we will examine how to more fully identify with the positive aspects of ourselves and the importance of gratitude.

Success with this program will be an evolutionary process. Results will not happen overnight, results will be based on your input and action. The essences are tools to facilitate your growth and progress, you cannot just take them, sit back and expect miracles. You can use them proactively, take action and create miracles.

Change of this nature is an inside out process, happening first within yourself, in the area of thoughts and feelings. These changes will give you access to a new perspective helping you to see things differently. Such as seeing possibilities where you have previously seen blocks and insurmountable obstacles. New perspectives knocking at your door are a call, an invitation to live in a new paradigm from your higher self. If the old perspectives are not getting you where you want, why not change? There is nothing to lose but old limiting thoughts, beliefs and patterns, that you don't care for anyway.

This series is designed to help point you in the direction where you are empowered to look into areas of your life that aren't working and make the changes you desire. I will be adding steps 1,2 and 3 over the coming weeks. If you have any questions in regards to this process or would like more a personalized consultation feel free to e-mail me at flowerremedy@gmail.com. I look forward to sharing insights and hearing your feedback.

All the Best to you in the New Year!

Mark D'Aquila

Treating symptoms of ADD and ADHD with Bach Flower Remedies Part 2

In this section I will outline a few possible combination flower remedies to address various areas of learning difficulties. The themes are mentioned in bold italics and the essences suggested are meant as guidelines; where certain essences fit. This is to give you an understanding of how to design a formula. Other essences that may be applicable but where not mentioned in Part 1 will also be included.

Below is a list of possible combinations based on themes:
Shy Student Low Self Confidence:
Larch, Hornbeam, Gentian, Sunflower, Missouri Primrose (Delta Gardens)
Day Dreamer:
Clematis, Star of Bethlehem, Hornbeam, Rosemary, Wild Rose
Forgetful, Low Grades, Always Trying:
Chestnut Bud, Peppermint, Larch, Gorse, Rosemary,
Study Formula:
Chestnut Bud, Rosemary, Shasta Daisy, Larch
Hyperactive Mind:
White Chestnut, Lavender (FES), Lemon Balm(Delta Gardens), Chamomile(FES), Blueberry Cactus( Essence Alchemy remedy)
This list is meant to provide a basic starting point on which to build. All the essences mentioned are available to order through the site. If you have any questions feel free to contact me via my webpage, www.essencealchemy.com.

Discclaimer
The information presented here is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease or medical condition, this in NOT medical advice. 

Essences for people with ADD and ADHD with Bach Flower Remedies Part 1

Using Bach Flower Remedies for focus, concentration and learning.

Chestnut Bud

If you suffer from or know someone suffering from the symptoms related to ADD/ADHD there are many options available to help you live a better life. It is important to review diet especially the intake of caffeine, refined sugars, gluten and processed foods. These substances should be greatly reduced as they affect the ability to concentrate and focus. Since this blog is about flower remedies I have made a list of Bach Remedies that support focus and concentration. I have also included 3 remedies from FES. This is a partial list and a good starting point to build on.

Chestnut Bud: This is a powerful remedy is useful for learning especially when the person makes the same mistakes repeatedly but fails to learn from them. Chestnut bud is good for all types of learning disabilities. This premier Bach remedy for learning is also good for concentration and attention.

Clematis: This essence is for the dreamer; the person whose head always seems to be in the clouds. Clematis can help one be present, focused and attentive to the task at hand. This remedy is good for people who drift off, whether from lack of interest or mental laziness.

Gentian: This essence helps to bring confidence to a person after a setback; gentian enhances perseverance, confidence and faith. Oh how school has become a competitive environment and the drive for perfection a near pathology. Thank goodness for the support of gentian. The fact of life is there are setbacks but they don't need to stop you in your tracks. 

Gorse: This is a powerful remedy for treating pessimism and a complete sense of hopelessness. People suffering in this state see no point in trying because they lack faith in a positive resolution to their challenge. This remedy builds optimism by supporting a sunnier outlook on life.

Hornbeam: This essence is useful for the ‘Monday Morning’ feeling that kids may experience as they dread going to school. It is helpful for staving off procrastination, it helps one to organize better and gather inspiration.

Larch: This essence helps with confidence; good for students who are shy, timid or don’t feel confident enough to embrace their school work. Larch is very useful when beginning to study a new topic or learning a new language or instrument; it helps one to make an effort and ’stay the course’.

White Chestnut: This essence is helpful for calming an overactive mind that is characterized by mental chatter. Those needing this remedy are stuck in their heads along with repetitive thoughts that just race incessantly.

Wild Rose: This essence helps the student to overcome apathy and take a renewed enthusiastic approach to school work. This essence can be extremely helpful for those in the learning environment. Wild rose has tremendous potential to really activate the will and encourage tenacity. The benefits of these qualities can go a long way to enhancing performance and renewing interest.

Essences from Flower Essence Services of Nevada City, CA.

Peppermint: This flower essence is for mental clarity helping to bring wakeful clarity to a dull, sluggish or lethargic mind. This essence is also good for an unbalanced metabolism which depletes mental forces and hinders focus.

Rosemary: This essence helps the soul to more fully incarnate. Rosemary renews the forces of incarnation, helping one to feel secure in their bodies and in the world. Rosemary is useful for forgetfulness and enhancing vitality, it helps to make one more alert and grounded.

 

Shasta Daisy: This essence is helpful for what is called holistic thinking or consciousness. It helps one to see information as a whole rather than in bits and pieces. It helps one synthesize ideas with greater clarity and get a grasp on information.

Part 2 I will present a list of possible combinations to address the challenges of ADD/ADHD.

The information presented here is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. This is NOT medical advice.

Pink Monkey Flower

Pink Monkey flower essence carries a unique quality; to bring us to a state of emotional honesty. Emotional honesty helps us to look within, accept and access our authentic self. This helps to counteract the fear of being exposed; which is fed by a lack of self acceptance. This fear erodes our sense of worthiness and courage to be emotionally honest with others.

Pink Monkey Flower relates to matters of the heart. When closed due to feelings of guilt and unworthiness, Pink Monkey Flower can help the heart to open and become more trusting. When we hide deep pain in the heart these internalized feelings keep us locked in limited emotional range. The soul requires openness to fully evolve, it does not function healthily on a diet of fear, insecurity, cynicism and loneliness. These feelings also prevent us from making deep connections with others. Feeling a deep nurturing connection with others feeds the human soul on many levels.

Pink Monkey flower helps us to take the type of emotional risks that enhance personal growth and feelings of worthiness. Use Pink Monkey Flower essence to treat childhood abuses that have shut down the heart and caused fear and pain which prevent us from having emotional fulfilling relationships. Emotional honesty with ones self and others is a key to happiness in intimate relationships. If we suffer from the pain of guilt and shame it cuts us off from feeling the warmth that comes from honestly connecting with others.

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Bleeding Heart

Bleeding Heart

Bleeding heart is a remedy for the loving dimensions of the heart, relationships and freedom. It is a common wild flower and garden ornamental, it thrives in cool, moist conditions and it prefers light to medium shade.  The flowers occur in a variety of colors from pink, to white to yellow.  The flower essence of bleeding heart is made from the pink variety and is made by FES, who have conducted research on this essence. 

The flowers hang open and exposed, free with nothing to hide. This speaks of the action of this essence to encourage an open loving heart free from attachment. The concept of non-attachment is very much a Buddhist concept and when applied to the realm of love it offers us a depth of experience and feeling that is uncommon.  To love another freely without attachment.

Often out of romantic misgivings love can turn to possessiveness and related emotions and conduct. Which leads us further away from the experience of love in the heart and into constriction, fear and apprehension as our heart begins to close at the thought of love going sour.  These feelings and misgivings often proceed the ending of a relationship. When we learn to love with more openness and freedom we can actually begin to attract the love we want into our lives. This essence helps to address feelings of anxiety that surface when we are in relationship.

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Bleeding Heart Flower Essence is a very powerful heart cleanser and strengthener for those who must learn the deeper spiritual lessons of love and freedom. Those needing this remedy suffer enormous pain and broken-heartedness because their feelings have been poured out so completely into another soul who is no longer present. Perhaps this happens because a loved one has died, or a cherished friend or family member has moved away.

More frequently, such anguish arises in personal relationships which have dissolved or in relationships that are greatly afflicted. Although love for another may have many genuine aspects, very often the Bleeding Heart type has made the error of living too extensively outside the boundaries of its own Self. This intense desire for connection is often felt by the partner as emotional dependence, causing the partner to fill a need for distance. Such a co-dependent relationship is devoid of real freedom and a balanced exchange of heart energies.

The loss and pain which are constantly felt by those in need of Bleeding Heart are therefore necessary experiences, when viewed from a larger perspective. Through Bleeding Heart flower essence, the soul learns to fill itself from within with strong spiritual forces, so that the capacity to love another is based on the ability to honor and nourish the Self.*



*The pink photo of bleeding heart is courtesy of FES. The last 3 paragraphs are from the Flower Essence Repertory by FES the photo of white bleeding heart is from my collection.

Spring Time Mallow

The mallow family of plants is quite large and graces the springtime with soft colored blooms. Their flowers have been explored as flower essences by a few companies mainly FES and Delta Gardens. There is a softness to the plant which translates to its healing qualities as a flower essence. The softness is also evident in the marshmallow candy, originally made from the root of the marshmallow plant.

David Dalton of Delta Gardens offers a flower essence of marshmallow which encapsulates the softness, it is indicated for a hardening of the emotional body. A marsh is a watery place and the element of water is associated with the emotions. The delicate looking flower is white with a purple center. Its main indication is for helping us to soften our feeling around other people particularly those that we do not like. The essence also helps us to get in touch with the love vibration when feeling hurt or angry.

The mallow essence FES offers has some interesting cross pollination in terms of effects on the personality as the Delta Gardens essence. The FES mallow (sidalcea glauscens) is indicated for those that feel socially insecure, they create boundaries and fear reaching out to others. This dovetails nicely with Delta Gardens mallow which helps to soften to those that we do not like.

They both work at clearing the harder feelings around socializing and relationships with other. They are both working with the second chakra in its relationship to the heart chakra helping to unite the two in greater harmony. This is a powerful and important function that can assist soul growth on many levels, bringing the gentleness and warmth of the heart into our social sphere.

Mimulus aka Monkey Flower

Mimulus aka Monkey Flower Essences

Mimulus also known as Monkey Flower is family of plants common in the Western United States. During spring and summer months it can be found growing near rivers and streams as well as deserts and mountain enviroments. It is a large family that covers much ground in terms of habitat range and its flowers offer a variety of color. Monkey flowers can be yellow, red, pink, purple, orange, beige, brick as well as a combination of these colors. It is such a color diverse family that offers a wide range of benefits for treating a variety of fear related issues.

The species of Mimulus that Bach prepared an essence of prefers clear moving water. This species grows upright with leaves growing from the stem and flowers at the end of the stem. The flowers are striking bright yellow with many red spots on the throat of the flower which guide bees to the nectar inside. Over the years FES has been making essences from other varieties of Monkey flower most notably pink monkey flower, scarlet monkey flower, purple monkey flower and sticky monkey flower.

Mimulus was one of the first three remedies that Dr. Bach prepared. It is used for fear, timidity and shyness. Bach noted that the mimulus type are sensitive to their environment. They prefer quite, avoid challenges and shy away from life as they are often plagued by many small worries. This type of withdraw from challenges and giving into fears and worry stymies the growth of the soul on many levels. When using mimulus the soul and personality develop courage by facing fears and moving beyond them helping us to build the internal resources for overcoming challenges we may face in the future.

The following is a group of Monkey flowers prepared by FES out of Nevada City California.
Pink Monkey flower: This essence is for fears related to emotions and closeness. Pink Monkey flower helps one to achieve a state of emotional honesty; it is useful when feelings of guilt, unworthiness and shame lead one to hide themselves from others. It encourages emotional honesty and emotional risk taking helping one to remain emotionally open.

Purple Monkey flower: This essence treats fears related to spiritual experiences; it helps to build trust in ones spiritual experience. It helps one to learn to trust spiritual guidance and fosters clarity during spiritual or psychic experiences.

Scarlet Monkey flower: This essence is for those who repress deep strong emotions for fear that the power of these emotions will over take them and they will be consumed by the ’shadow’. Scarlet Monkey flower helps one come to grips with their shadow side, helping to integrate the trans-formative power of deep feelings.

Sticky Monkey flower: This essence treats fears around sexuality and intimacy. Sticky Monkey flower helps with repressed sexual feelings as well as bringing warmth to the experience of human sexuality. This essence helps one to integrate warmth in relationships and sexual expression.

Coming across Monkey flowers in the wild is such a fun feeling because they are so distinct in their coloration and there is such a variety of them. On June 6th 2008, I came upon a variety of yellow mimulus with a large red spot on the front lip of the yellow flower. On March 9th 2009 I came upon Bigelow Monkey flower a striking pink, purple, yellow variety that grows in the desert regions of Southern California.

I have prepared an essence of each of these varieties and look forward to doing more research with them over the coming years. So far they show promise with 1.) coming into healthy contact with anger and expressing it and 2.) treating fear of rejection. As I discover more about these two essences I will be sharing them with you on this blog. If you are interested in trying them as research essences please e-mail me and I will be happy to send them to you.

Activ 8 Formula by FES

Recently FES has introduced a line of 12 combination remedies in spray bottles. These combination essences address a broad spectrum of conditions and are beneficial for temporary use. We will now look at the Active 8 combination.
The Active 8 combo contains the following flower essences:
Blazing Star- This a new essence to released by FES as part of The Range of Light collection. This essence carries a fiery quality into the will helping to boost overly listless 'watered down' will forces. This essence helps us connect with fiery solar masculine emotional energy.
Blackberry-The tenacity of this plant lends this quality to its flower essence, empowering the will to overcome lethargy and inertia. Blackberry flower essence is also used in the assistance of translating goals and ideas into to concrete action
Cayenne-The fiery essence of this hot pepper plant lends its self to overcoming sluggish phlegmatic attitudes and states of being. Cayenne imparts fire to the personality helping us break through and move forward past resistance.
Dandelion- This bright yellow ubiquitous springtime flower adds the qualities of relaxation and ease in the pursuit of goals. It is indicate for the overstriving tense personality, helping one take a more relaxed approach to the work at hand.
Madia- The addition of this flower essence aids in the quality of focus, helping one to contract in a clear and direct manner. Madia helps center scattered energy and is helpful for dull and listless states of mind.

Red Penstemon- The addition of this essence assists with the qualities of tenacity, completing projects and tasks it boosts determination to overcome challenges and obstacles.
Red Larkspur- The addition of this essence brings a quality of radiance to the personality helping with catalyzing a magnetic quality which aids in leadership and inspires others,
Sunflower- A member of the daisy family, Sunflowers are known to turn their heads and follow the sun as it crosses the sky. This sun seeking signature , translates to us following our own sunny nature, turning towards the positive life empowering feelings necessary when aiming to create and work on new projects. Sunflower is used to help get us in touch with our positive masculine solar forces of manifestation.

Active 8 also contains the essential oils of cinnamon and cardamon.
Cinnamon Essential Oil- Has a potent and powerful warm, sweet, spicy aroma used in small amounts it is great for enhancing physical energy. This oil increases bioelectrical forces in the body.
Cardamon Essential Oil- Has a rich spicy scent with notes of citrus, camphor, it also has a slightly floral, woody tone. Cardamon is stimulating to the conscious mind.
An interesting note about this combo is all the flowers are either red or yellow and a few are from the Asteraceae family, Sunflower, Dandelion and Madia. Three of the essences in this combo are from the new Range of Light kit, Blazing Star, Red Penstemon and Red Larkspur.
This dynamic collection of flower essences is great to use at the outset of a project or goal or anywhere along the process of task completion and goal achievement. I find this combo to be useful when feeling dull at work and need a boost to my overall physical, emotional and mental energies.